I've been a student of A Course in Miracles since 1986, and facilitated a Course In Miracles group for seven years at the Rocky Mountain Miracles Center in Denver, Colorado. In 2009, I found The Work of Byron Katie. In my experience both the Course and The Work stand alone, but together they can be very powerful as each brings light to the other. (Click here for more on The Course and The Work.)
When I found The Work it had been four and a half years since my seventeen year old son killed himself. I finally had a place to put all the shameful thoughts of a lifetime: "I was a bad mother. He shouldn't have died. I shouldn't be glad it's over. It's my fault. I have nothing to offer...."
My son was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome at three years old and I felt inadequate for much of his seventeen year life. I also harshly attacked myself for not having a career and for being "financially dependent" on my husband--and for not being "more social"....
I know what pain and shame and guilt feels like.
I love that the Work is about being honest...not spiritual.
I finally understood that you can't get to Truth, without truth...
looking straight at exactly what I am thinking and feeling in this moment...just as it is...NOT as it "should" be.
I finally expressed my shame and guilt and sadness about an abortion that I'd had been carrying for thirty-four years. I inquired into my shame of compulsive overeating and discovered I was starving myself spiritually.
I am coming to see my emotions...all of them...are for me.
Every day I write down the stressful thoughts that come into my mind. I pay attention to them. I see they are gifts: Even these--"I am lonely, bored, empty, weird, incapable, needy." I really listen to my feelings.
I've learned to be a better listener to others, to see criticism as a gift,
to notice and admit my motives when I can. I am so grateful for this Work. There is never a moment when I ask myself these questions that I do not find release from my own inner war.
I am a Certified Facilitator of The Work of Byron Katie. Certification is a two to four year program of about 650 hours. I completed this training in January, 2013. I work with individuals privately in person, on the phone, or on Skype. I also offer teleclasses on The Work and am available to offer workshops. Click here for more information.